Choose You! eBook & 5-Day Challenge

Do you find it difficult to say ‘no’? Do you find yourself saying ‘yes’ when you would much rather say ‘no’? It’s not surprising, as most of us are taught that saying ‘no’ is selfish. Women, in particular, are socialized to be compliant and selfless.

In the workplace, volunteering for tasks or working late is seen as being a good team player. Friends and family can expect you to take responsibility for making them happy or making their lives easier. And be honest, being the good guy who they can always rely on, who won’t let them down – that can feel pretty good.

It can often be hard to establish your boundaries for fear of creating tension. But, that same fear can build pressure without you realizing it. You see, when you let people take advantage of your kindness, it will eventually take its toll on your happiness.

When you’re not your usual happy self, those around you will pick up on that, and the dark atmosphere can forge distance. On the contrary, when you enforce boundaries and say no when you aren’t comfortable with something, people will quickly understand what your limits are.

Once they’ve adapted to your limits, they won’t keep pushing those boundaries, and you won’t have to keep saying no. Subsequently, you’ll avoid tension, and everyone – most importantly yourself – will be able to enjoy life more.

Ultimately, you’re allowed to say no. 

Why is putting our own needs first so vital to health, happiness, and success?

• It staves off burn-out
• It sets you up to live a fulfilled, joyful life
• It keeps you focused on what’s important
• It helps you refocus when you feel overwhelmed or at a loss as to what should come next
• It aids in recuperating from stress so that it doesn’t build up

If you would like to begin making yourself a priority, but don’t know where to start, you are in the right place. "Saying No Easily" will guide you through several steps imperative to the Choosing You process. By the time you are finished reading, you’ll not only acknowledge that putting yourself is worth the effort, but you’ll know how to make it happen! You’ll be totally on board and moving towards living a reality where self-care and filling your cup first isn’t a reward, but a necessity.